How I Met My Husband | Love Story Manifestation

How I Met My Husband And Why I Believe God Brought Us Together

People often ask me how I met my husband. Or better said: “How I manifested him.” The short truth is: I stopped being available for everything that was not my desire.

If you’ve followed me for a longer time, you know I settled a lot in love. It was my journey and maybe even more an initiation into the woman I am today.

Through heartbreak, lots of dates and of course also beautiful and loving memories. The story of how I met my husband is different on all levels. I honestly believe God had a hand in it and has brought us together.

It’s a long read, but I promise you it’s worth it no matter if you are still dating or already manifested “your man.”

When my desire “the love story of a lifetime” came to me

I still remember the moment when I was in bed with my ex-partner and we were making love. Right in the middle of it, a desire moved through my body:

I want another child.

And almost instantly after that…

But not with this man.

This was all in a split second and before I could even realise what it was that I just felt, I felt this call to keep my heart open (just as when Anna Sophia died).

You have to keep your heart open.

And this was f* uncomfortable, almost brutal in its clarity. To feel that level of knowing while being that intimate with someone. But looking back, that moment makes total sense:

Creation requires polarity. Desire often arrives exactly where you see what is not aligned.

And this is also the moment where it’s super easy to shut down right away. To step away from your desire, till it comes back (or hits you in the face another 10 times). 🤪

You override your knowing and guard your body to soften the edges. You swallow the energy, let it burn you from the inside and tell yourself that you have to be grateful. You negotiate with what is available for you.

And I didn’t. Not because I was fearless, because of course I was scared with moments. There is nothing wrong with experiencing all the feels. The difference is, I no longer abandoned myself and was willing to hold myself in the messy middle.

Shortly after this “uncomfortable intimacy moment”, I joined a six month mastermind. My coach asked us for our intentions and I wrote just one sentence down:

I want the love story of a lifetime.

Allow your Soul to take over

This is the part where many women get lost. That twilight zone in between. The moments where you think: “I am either a genius or I am losing it.”

The moment where you’ve outgrown something, but what is meant for you hasn’t arrived yet.

Your ego wants guarantees, your nervous system resists the capacity expander and all wounded parts want to cling. But your Soul says:

Stay with your knowing. Open your heart and let God rearrange things.

Fast forward, Mid-June I left the relationship and Finn and I moved from the south of the Netherlands to the north. Purely on intuition (the intuition came AFTER leaving).

Shortly after the tests came.

One man who said the exact same sentence my ex once said: “I’ve healed that. That was in my past.”

But I felt something else in my body. If you are still at the level of “I healed this a year ago,” you are not at the level I require for my life. Not for me and def not for my child.

And of course his projections came:

“You’re not giving me a chance. You’re superficial. You're too much.”

But here is what I knew:

I am not taking my child through another round of emotional chaos just because I am afraid to be alone.

Then there was another man, 13 Cm shorter than me. And this is where women betray themselves in subtle ways.

You call it superficial.

“He is a nice man, let’s make it work.”

You negotiate with your vision.

But the love story of a lifetime?

There was no doubt in my knowing, so again, I said no.

And after this came the real shift.

My couch, book and red wine moment

After I had found my new home and I had fully decorated her, I was sitting on the couch and I felt something settle in my body.

If love never comes, I will be ok. I am ok.

If my Soul desires it, great, but I will no longer abandon myself for it.

I felt it IN my body, instead of just in my journal.

No more searching. No more performing. And def no more shrinking to secure it.

I read my book, drank my wine and knew I was willing to hold the desire and release the attachments. Fully letting go while staying loyal to what I felt in my heart. And that combination changed everything.

When I met my husband

I met my husband. We met in life, not through a planned date.

And the moment we hugged, my body relaxed.

Not fireworks. Not chaos. Not anxiety disguised as chemistry.

On the way back home, Finn said:

“Mom, I want a dad like that.”

And I smiled, because children feel truth faster than adults do.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, from the moment my husband and I chose each other, something locked in.

There was one friend, just one, who could feel it the way I felt it. Who didn’t call me crazy or him “in a midlife crisis”.

Most people thought we were impulsive and crazy.

But when I told him I love you that first time, what I felt underneath those words was:

I love you. I will never cheat on you. I love you. I will never leave you. I love you. I will always choose you.

It didn’t come from the mind and I hadn’t wrote this part in my journal. I felt it from my heart.

And it was the same for him.

He knew he needed to be with me. He knew he had to walk through the fire of his own life to stand fully in that choice.

And once we chose, love became easy.

The circumstances weren’t always easy. Our grief later on wasn’t always easy. And building a life together wasn’t always easy.

But him and me?

Always easy. Always.

I have never felt more safe. Never felt more loved. And never felt more held.

I could never have birthed Anna Sophia the way I did without him next to me. I could never have experienced the depth of my grief without him holding the field.

And when people meet us in real life, they feel it. Our love touches them.

And sometimes it confronts them.

Because union love does that. It will mirror you what is possible and exposes where someone has settled.

I had no examples of this kind of union growing up.

No model of knowing deep down that God chose the two of us for each other.

I don’t always use the word God. But our love feels like the hand of God.

Because I could never have constructed this with my mind. I could never have manipulated this outcome.

All I could do was:

Stay loyal to my knowing and refuse what wasn’t aligned. Release all my attachments and choose it when it appears.

And of course now show up for the union over and over again.

Not from “making it work.” But from devotion.

Love, Received – The Book Club

If this story touched your heart, then Love, Received - The Book Club is for you.

Yes, it is a book about love and relationships, but it is just as much about how you receive in business. Because I see this every day with women.

🌹The woman who settles for the almost-love…is often the same woman who settles for the almost-client. 🌹The woman who negotiates her standards in love…is often the same woman who negotiates her prices. 🌹The woman who fears being “too much” in her relationship…is often the same woman who fears taking up space in her industry.

Inside Love, Received - The Book Club we heal this pattern at the root. When you stop abandoning yourself in your romantic life, you stop abandoning yourself in your leadership.

So you can finally:

🌹 desire the right clients for your gold (not just the “accessible ones”) 🌹 stop letting the need for money dictate your direction 🌹 build from devotion instead of desperation and hold the standards for who gets access to you.

Because how you receive love is how you receive money, leadership, and even life itself.

And when you stop abandoning yourself in one area, everything shifts.

This is why this book will matter beyond dating.

You will stop chasing and start being met exactly where you Soul desires to be.

You don’t find the love story of a lifetime.

You become the woman who no longer negotiates with anything less.

If you are ready, Love, Received - The Book Club starts this Tuesday.

👉 Join Love, Received – The Book Club here

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